This article is graciously provided for republication by the author, Dr. Dinesh Sharma, an Ayurvedacharya, consultant Vastu Master, Vedic Astrologer and Ayurvedic Physician and teacher in the Himalayan Tradition of Yoga and Meditation for more than 30 years.
"You go behind a horse and the horse kicks you, shame on the horse. You again go behind a horse and he again kicks you, shame on you."
We know these words of wisdom from books, elders and wise friends and mentors. Many times we still get confused about their application and actual meaning. When people hurt or humiliate us by their words or actions, after time they may realize their mistake and seek forgiveness by apologizing. Since there is no sense in holding a grudge permanently, we should forgive them. BUT never forget that experience as it would save us from further hurt and humiliation.
There are people who habitually hurti others and seek forgiveness later. They have all sorts of justifications to hurt us as well as their seeking of forgiveness. We should try not to hurt them in response even though at times it is made difficult by the depth of our emotional overwhelm and grief that we suffer. We need to understand the truth that such people carry a bad past life samskara or karma which keeps coming back and they are unable to understand and repair that. We should forgive such people. They are truly pitiable. But we should never forget the hurt and humiliation they caused us. We should not allow them another opportunity to hurt us again.
Chances are very high that they will do it again.
Shame on us if we again go behind the horse that has already kicked us.