This article is graciously provided for republication by the author, Dr. Dinesh Sharma, an Ayurvedacharya, consultant Vastu Master, Vedic Astrologer and Ayurvedic Physician and teacher in the Himalayan Tradition of Yoga and Meditation for more than 30 years.
Being born in this world it's apparent that we have to go through all; happiness and sadness, love and hate, pain and pleasure, honor and humiliation, hope and frustration, success and failure, gains and losses, union and separations and finally death. There is no escape from them as they naturally come as bindings to the body and the mind in the body we take. There is no way that we can choose one and avoid others.
Often people take success, prosperity, happiness and good health for granted but go into deep depression when the opposite manifests. We gladly accept and even jump on every opportunity to get bouquets forgetting that bricks too may follow. And when they come, we cry heavens, create a big ruckus and become very unhappy.
We make millions and don't even share and when we loose a few thousands, we make big noise and publicize it and become very unhappy. We abuse our body through bad life style, never thank God for a sound body, and when we become sick we question; 'why I have been singled for such a dreaded disease ?'.
We think that we can buy happiness by going to temples and offering 'prasad' and a few metal coins to the deity. We trust that we have insured our selves against all the diseases, failures, losses, unhappiness and mishaps by bathing in a holy river or visiting a shrine even though we continue to exploit, lie, cheat, hurt and humiliate others.
How can we be blissful when we spend thousands on a family dinner but next morning argue on few rupees with a poor rickshawallah. We don't mind our kids spending thousands on shopping but when the poor maid asks for a small raise, we remind her that others would happily do her job even for a lesser monthly stipend.
If we are looking for happiness in true sense it will never come by buying new cars, dresses and other materialistic objects. Such happiness is short lived since the car will become old, the jewelry and dresses will eventually become outdated & unusable and all the expensive gadgets will become obsolete. One need not be apologetic about becoming rich or prosperous but the way we use this energy called 'money' is the key to the true happiness.
We need to learn to share to be joyful. Hoarding money will only see some digits going up in the bank statement and swell our ego but sharing it by helping the less privileged people around will bring eternal joy, which will never fade or diminish.
While dealing with different emotions and people in this world and remaining exuberant in true sense, we need to learn to become a conscious witness to all what goes around. That happens when we realize the ultimate truth that we are using and living in the body we daily see in the mirror, as a temporary occupant. Through this body we relate with people as mother, father, son, daughter, husband, wife, friend and many others. In this body we deal with different personalities, numerous minds and diverse emotions. These can be negative, positive, angry, peaceful, happy, sad, jealous, egoist and so on. People also relate with us similarly.
To have a cheerful relationship with people we need to learn to relate with their soul rather mind. Mind is quite vulnerable to negative and destructive emotions. Even the most beautiful and intense relationship between mother and the child becomes difficult when mother starts confronting with child's mind. Till the child is completely dependent on mother the relationship is from soul to soul and is most divine and pure.
Happiness in a loving relationship is more stable when both relate with each other's soul. As they start interacting more through the mind, doubts, insecurities, fears and many such negative emotions start creeping in to destroy the happiness of a relationship.
One can buy the pleasure but not the true happiness. To become truly enchanted and delightful one needs to evolve by cultivating empathy, compassion and awareness.